Raising energy
When we speak of "raising energy," we're often referring to the specific method by which we prepare for magick. But generally, the term can refer to any method by which our psyches are placed in a state of arousal. In such a state, we may have more power to manifest personal change. Some time-honored methods include dancing, chanting, dynamic meditation and rhythmic breathing. Another method is sexual activity, which some cultures and traditions have incorporated into their spiritual practices or used to reach altered states of consciousness. In this guide, I'm going to leave it up to you how to use the energy you raise and what to use it for, and instead concentrate on presenting one method for raising this energy through prolonged sexual pleasuring.
I'm going to recommend that you raise sexual energy in your partner by using your hands to pleasure him or her, and have it raised in yourself when you switch and it's your turn to receive. Helping someone stay at the arousal level desirable for sex magick requires attention, and (especially when you're just starting out) pleasuring your partner through intercourse may be too distracting for you. Using your hands allows you to concentrate, and to employ all the dexterity that hands are naturally capable of.
It's best to perform energy-raising erotic massage while your partner is lying on a massage table of some kind. You'll start by preparing your massage space to be relaxing and sensual. Then, you can give a sensual and relaxing general massage before shifting the focus to your partner's sex centers. Groundedness is maintained through both partners continuing to breathe regularly. The idea is to bring your partner to the highest possible arousal and energy level, and to keep your partner there for as long as he or she wishes. For a man, this is best done through communication that allows stimulation to be slowed down, changed or stopped before ejaculation becomes inevitable (stimulation continues in a few moments, after the urgency fades). For a woman, this is best done by using G-spot and/or clitoral massage to bring her to multiple orgasms, which naturally tend to take place over an extended period of time.
This method of raising sexual energy works equally well for same-sex as for opposite sex partners. Additionally, as having someone pleasure you with their hands doesn't tend to bring up the same set of cultural fears and judgments that oral sex or intercourse sometimes do, this method sometimes works well even between people who are just friends, and even when your partner isn't of a gender you are normally attracted to. Finally, please be aware that you don't need a partner to raise sexual energy; masturbation works just fine, and almost all of the information in this article can apply to solo sex.
Safety precautions
Coming into contact with active outbreaks of herpes and so on or exchanging body fluids of any kind with someone carrying a sexually transmitted disease (STD) imparts a risk to you of catching that STD. Although unprotected genital massage is certainly safer than unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse, you can insure absolute protection by putting on a pair of latex gloves before pleasuring your partner's genitals. Erotic massage is potentially the safest form of sexual contact you can have with someone.
Although oils do degrade latex (which is why one shouldn't use oil-based lubricants with latex condoms), many experts feel that as gloves are thicker than condoms they may be safely used with oils for reasonable periods of time. Please note that gloves are only considered necessary when one is massaging skin that is broken or unhealthy due to STD-related inflammation, or when there is a possibility of the hands coming into contact with infectious body fluids. For general massage on healthy skin in areas away from the genitals, gloves aren't needed. You should of course remove any rings and bracelets before donning your gloves, and after donning your gloves rinse off the powder on the gloves if the powder is irritating to your partner. In addition, if you're going to be using a vibrator on your partner, and if other people might want to use the same vibrator later, you should put a latex glove or condom over the vibrator head to keep it clean.
If you think you might want to conclude this form of energy-raising with oral sex or intercourse and need latex barriers for these activities, be sure to have some on hand. If you don't know what type of latex condom to buy, start with Kimono MicroThins (without Nonoxynol-9). You'll want to use plenty of water-based lube on the outside of the condom so that it feels good and works well. Some men like to put one drop of water-based lube inside the tip of the condom as well, to enhance the sensation transmitted to them (you can get the same effect with gloves by putting a drop of water-based lube inside each of the fingers before putting the gloves on). For cunnilingus and analingus, I recommend Glyde barriers (available from better sex supply shops); failing this, Saran Wrap can be used instead. With both types of oral barriers, you can put a drop of water-based lube on your partner's side of the barrier to increase the sensation transmitted to her or him.
One final caution: If you stimulate or penetrate a woman's anus with one of your fingers, you must change gloves before putting that same finger into her vagina. Doing otherwise can cause yeast infections.
Set and setting
Just as one takes time to set up the space before a ritual, one should take time to set up the space for an energy-raising erotic massage. Turn off the phones. Put a "Do Not Disturb" sign on the door, illuminate the room with either candles or soft indirect lamps, burn incense and turn up the heat so that you would be comfortable lying down naked. Keep your gloves, water-based lubricants, oils and the like within easy reach. If your massage table is adjustable, adjust it so that when you stand next to the table with your arms at your sides with your fists closed, your knuckles just brush the top of the table. Have the massage table covered with a sheet that itself covers a big blanket, draping over the edges of the table so that the sides may be brought up to cover the receiving partner after the massage is finished. Keep some soft things handy, like pieces of (possibly fake) fur or feathers for additional sensual tantalization and possibly an eye pillow to block out light for your partner.
Music is important; putting a favorite CD on repeat play is a good idea. Some people are more comfortable with a pillow or rolled bath towel underneath their knees (when lying face up) or their ankles (when lying face down), so have some bath towels handy. For an extra touch, toss the towels or pillows in the dryer just before the massage so they are nice and warm. Speaking of warmth, be sure you know how to adjust the heat in your room, and keep a blanket or two on hand. Some women will be more comfortable with a pillow under their hips, so have one on hand if the receiving partner is female. To assist in your partner's comfort you may wish to clip your fingernails before performing your massage. And finally, it's a good idea for both of you to go to the bathroom before beginning the massage, to cut down on extraneous interruptions.
Lubrication
One similarity between men and women is that some sort of lubricant needs to be used when massaging their genitals: This will make the experience more pleasurable and prevent sore spots from developing. One difference between men and women is that one may use either oil-based or water-based lubricants on men, whereas one should use only water-based lubricants on women (to avoid yeast infections). For genital massage on men, or for regular massage elsewhere on the body, you can purchase special massage oils at massage supply shops or else just use a light vegetable oil (such as safflower or sunflower oil) from the supermarket. Lubrication should always be reapplied as necessary.
It's very convenient to have a flip-top squeeze bottle, and one of those massage oil holsters that massage supply shops sell, so you don't have to reach or fumble. Since many of these holsters have two pockets, you could use one for water-based lube and the other for massage oil. Just be sure lubricants are warm before putting them on someone; put the lubricant in your hand first, and rub your hands together if necessary. One final word of advice: Please be sure your water-based lube doesn't contain Nonoxynol-9. In this context Nonoxynol-9 is unlikely to help but is very likely to irritate.
Good communication
During both the relaxation and genital phases of your erotic massage, it's important for the person on the table to always feel comfortable making requests and comments. He or she should feel free to mention anything that is getting in the way of his or her comfort and pleasure. Requests to go to the bathroom, for touch to be harder or lighter, to take a break or stop, for the heat to be turned up and so on are all signs that levels of communication and trust are high. They are also signs that the receiving partner is paying attention to his or her feelings, which is a key to experiencing greater and greater pleasure.
Giving your erotic massage: relaxing your partner's body
Start by connecting with your partner. There may be specific ways you and your partner prefer to do this. If not, try kind words, soft gazing into each other's eyes, synchronized breathing and/or caressing each others' faces or hands.
When both of you are ready, have your partner lie face down, naked, on the massage table. Start by grounding and centering while resting your hands on the receiving partner's upper and lower back. Then, perform a relaxing massage on the back and legs. Basic ideas of relaxing massage include keeping your hands in contact with your partner, taking your time, being rhythmic yet sensitive and proceeding from long gliding strokes to deeper ones. When giving a massage be sure to use good body mechanics: don't lean over the table, use your body weight rather than arm strength for deep strokes and, during gliding strokes, keep your knees slightly bent and fluid.
After relaxing your partner's back, legs and feet, have him or her turn over. Massage the chest, perhaps with light brushing strokes over the nipples, and glide down to the legs. It's okay to brush the genitals when going down to the legs. After finishing the legs, glide back up and slowly brush over the genitals, teasing them. This teasing process can be drawn out by brushing the inner thighs near the genitals, very lightly touching the pubic region and so on.
If you need to put on gloves, do so now (possibly toweling any oil off your hands first). Look into your partner's eyes, while cradling his or her genitals, and ask your partner's permission to go further. "May I?" is a nice way of putting it (and by the way, it's perfectly okay for the receiving partner to respond, "In a few minutes..."). The rest of the massage will focus on the genitals, with periodic sweeps up and down the body to spread, balance and integrate the energies.
Pleasuring your partner's genitals: male
The basic idea of male genital massage is that you should slow down, stop or change the stroke type before orgasm becomes inevitable. This technique allows pleasuring and energy-raising to continue. The best way to accomplish this is for the man to give a signal just before ejaculation become unavoidable. Verbal cues, raising a hand or pulling away slightly all work well. Repeated play of this kind can sometimes help men to learn how to have multiple orgasms without ejaculating, and this repeated "peaking" process is something that can be practiced during masturbation. Although delaying ejaculation during the course of the massage is desirable, some partners like to finish with an ejaculation; whether or not to do this is up to the two of you.
As an aside, it should be noted that an additional benefit to men of genital massage is that an erection is not necessary in order to have sex (some massage strokes actually feel better when the penis is soft). Additionally, gloves can take the places of condoms if latex is necessary, which many consider to be a benefit.
In general, it's helpful to encourage your partner with hot talk, compliments, attention and conscious breathing (discussed in more detail later). Humming, as if one were experiencing a light form of pleasure, also encourages his pleasure. Letting your partner know verbally and nonverbally that you're actively involved and actively enjoying his pleasure can be a powerful aphrodisiac for him.
Suggested genital massage strokes
There are many different massage strokes that feel good on male genitals. Unless you're told otherwise, it's usually safe to assume that firm and consistent stroking will feel best. I'm going to present a few favorite strokes below, but you can make up your own or examine the resources in this article's "Learning More" sections to learn dozens of additional ones. One approach that some people favor is selecting two favorite strokes, and for a period of time alternating between them every once in a while.
"Healing Stroke": With the penis resting on the belly, cup the balls with one hand. The heel of the palm of the other hand glides up and down the underside of the penis all the way to the tip. (This stroke I learned from a Body Electric School handout.)
"Anvil Stroke": Bring one hand down, letting it stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom. When it hits the bottom, release it. Meanwhile, bring your other hand to the top of the penis and repeat the stroke, creating an alternating motion. (From the Internet's Alt.Sex frequently asked questions (FAQ) list.)
"Climbing the Mountain": Take the penis in one hand and gently, sensuously caress it for about 10 seconds, then give it one quick up-and-down stroke. Repeat the sensuous caressing for about 10 seconds (perhaps using slow up-and-down strokes), and then give the penis two quick up-and-down strokes. Repeat the caressing, then give three quick strokes and so on. Continue until ejaculation approaches inevitability, then slow down or stop so that ejaculation may be avoided. (From the book SM 101: A Realistic Introduction, second edition.)
Cocooning
It's up to the two of you if you want to finish with an ejaculation. If you do, then pleasuring should continue all the way through ejaculation and until the man asks you to stop. At the end of the massage (whether or not there is an ejaculation), the sheet/blanket combination can be folded up over the person on the table to provide a warm cocoon. It is at this point that visualization and the potential for sex magick may be at their most powerful for the receiving partner.
Pleasuring your partner's genitals: female
Female sexual response is significantly different from male sexual response, in the following ways:
It's because of number 5 that the basic approach to erotic energy-raising differs between women and men. Since women may often enjoy stimulation all the way through one orgasm and into the next, there is little or no need for them to hold back in any way. Having orgasms in a series can cause energy levels to float for a long time at a very high level.
Suggested types of stimulation
Women vary in their tastes concerning G-spot or clitoral stimulation, and in what type of stimulation most commonly leads to multiple orgasms for them. So ask and listen. A common request is to begin with protracted gentle rubbing over the entire vulva, followed by clitoral stimulation and finishing with G-spot stimulation after a time or after an orgasm. Some women like the clitoris and the G-spot to be stimulated simultaneously, or alternated between; others like one to the exclusion of the other. Please be aware that neither clitoral stimulation nor G-spot stimulation (nor any sort of vaginal penetration) usually feel good unless a woman has reached a moderate or high level of arousal.
Although the genital massage techniques presented below are some of the most universally favored among women, there are many more. Examine the resources in this article's "Learning More" sections to learn dozens of additional ones. By the way, when performing genital massage on women one often has a "free hand," which may be used to glide over the rest of her body, tease her nipples, massage the perineum, caress her face, form "connections" with other parts of the body by simultaneously stimulating these other parts of the body at the same time and so on.
Clitoral massage: When massaging the clitoris, learn what part of it feels best to her. Going in circles around it softly and rhythmically with a lubricated finger is a good way to start, until you get more specific feedback or until your ministrations uncover something that obviously feels better to her. Once a highly pleasurable stroke is found, consistency with it is often the key to further pleasure. Many women find that clitoral orgasms and clitoral stimulation are more intense if their vaginas are pleasantly filled at the time: more fingers or a well-lubricated dildo (possibly with a condom over it) are two of the best ways to accomplish this sensation if it is desired.
G-spot massage: The G-spot is a small area on the forward wall of the vagina, just behind the pubic bone, about two inches in. A woman can often tell you when you've found her G-spot, and it often feels more "ridged" than the surrounding tissue. Anatomically, it corresponds to the area underneath the urethral sponge. Stimulating it can be intensely pleasurable but may cause a sensation of needing to urinate. Note that female ejaculation is sometimes a result of G-spot stimulation - female ejaculate is not urine but is expelled through the urethra.
One easy way to stimulate the G-spot is with the index and middle fingers together (possibly starting with just the index finger). Just make a gesture inside the vagina in this area that would look like the signal to "come here." Alternatively, one can rub the area in a circular fashion. Generally, it's the pads of your fingers that are pressing into her G-spot. Another approach is to rotate the fingers inside the vaginal barrel with even pressure against all areas of it. Be aware that the shape of the vagina changes as a woman's arousal level increases. You'll probably notice the inner portion ballooning outwards during extreme arousal, which means that your fingers will need to rotate a little farther from center in order to maintain the same pressure on the vaginal walls.
Vibrator massage: Feel free to use a vibrator on your partner if she desires it. Vibrators generally work best on or near the clitoris. If the vibration is too intense, switch to a lower speed, or put a cloth between the vibrator and the clitoris. If that vibrator will ever be used on other people, put a glove over it before applying it to your partner.
It's okay to let your partner hold the vibrator. It's also fun for a vibrator to be used clitorally at the same time vaginal penetration is being performed. The most versatile vibrators are the ones that don't look like any sort of phallus: The Hitachi Magic Wand and the Wahl are popular choices. Sex supply shops such as Good Vibrations (out of town; its sales number is 1-800-BUY-VIBE) and Toys in Babeland (707 E Pike) sell these vibrators, as well as various attachments for specific kinds of sexual pleasure.
Verbal and nonverbal encouragement: As with a male partner, it's helpful to encourage a female partner with hot talk, compliments, attention and conscious breathing. Humming, as if one were experiencing a light form of pleasure, also encourages her. Many sexual difficulties (especially for women) stem from worries: worrying that your partner is getting tired of pleasuring you, that you aren't coming fast enough and so on. Letting a receiving partner (of any gender) know verbally and nonverbally that you're actively involved and actively enjoying their pleasure can be a powerful aphrodisiac for them. And let's keep one other thing in mind: Nobody has to come at all. Pleasure can be enjoyed and sexual energy can be raised without anyone reaching orgasm, and this should be perfectly acceptable to both partners.
Cocooning
As is the case with men, it's nice to fold the sheet/blanket combination over your partner when you two are done raising energy. Again, the minutes after this is done may be the best time for the receiving partner to do visualization and/or sex magick.
Variations and enhancements: going solo
You can pleasure yourself any way you like to raise energy, with my blessing. Remember, masturbation is still sex - it's just sex for one! Almost everything described in this article can be done without a partner: just substitute "yourself" for "your partner" throughout.
Conscious breathing
Regular, conscious breathing is a powerful way to augment the power of both relaxation and erotic massage. If the receiving partner forgets to breathe, the massaging partner can remind him or her by breathing rhythmically and audibly. Some partners find that synchronizing the breathing between the two of them leads to wonderful sensations. But whatever you choose to do, just don't hyperventilate; that's not the goal at all.
Men who choose to finish their massage with an ejaculation can increase their pleasure during ejaculation by breathing deeply during their orgasm. Additionally, something called the "Bliss Breath" can also increase pleasure; one does this by repeatedly "sipping" the inhalation through the mouth, and subsequently making a sharp vocal exhalation through the mouth.
Finishing with intercourse
Some partners (especially opposite-sex couples) like to finish with intercourse rather than the blanket-wrapping I've described. Since most massage tables are sturdy enough to support two people, at the end one partner can climb on top of the other and they can both fuck themselves to what are often very powerful orgasms. Thus, they can finish locked in each others' embrace (although even without intercourse the standing partner can lean over and embrace the receiving partner's upper body, or else just gently rest his or her hands on the receiving partner). Despite what mainstream pornography tends to portray, women don't usually have orgasms from intercourse alone. However, female orgasm during intercourse is much more likely to happen if the woman has had one or more orgasms (especially of the G-spot variety) before intercourse commences.
The "Big Draw"
This technique for finishing the massage was developed by the Body Electric School. At a certain point (counted down to verbally, so both partners know when it's coming), massage and any other touch ceases, the person on the table takes seven very deep breaths and while holding the seventh breath clenches every muscle in his or her body and rolls his or her eyes back in the head (possibly assuming a tense position with torso and legs a bit off the table, as in a "crunch") for about 10 seconds. He or she then completely relaxes, resumes regular breathing and the standing person gently folds the sheets and blanket over his or her body. The music should be very "cosmic" at this point, and the person performing the massage shouldn't touch the person on the table (who has his or her eyes closed, or who has a blindfold on) for at least five minutes or until the person on the table requests otherwise. This practice (called the "Big Draw") can provoke profound emotional release and often mystical visions.
For this technique, it's helpful to use a prearranged and timed music tape. It's ideal to have five seconds of silence immediately following the Big Draw, and possibly during it. Music should have been building to that point and should resume with something really beautiful after the silence following the Big Draw.
Right after the relaxation and silence (but possibly before being cocooned) is a perfect time to do sex magick. Visualize what you want, and then imagine it going out to the universe as a fountain of energy that originates from you. Afterwards, the standing partner opens the cocooned sheets, gently towels off any oil, helps his or her partner to sit up and then both partners either keep silence or say what is in their hearts. It's fun to follow the Big Draw with a hot tub or a warm bath.
Learning more: Body Electric courses
The Body Electric school offers courses nationwide in spiritual, energy-raising erotic massage. They are the only organization to offer education of this kind on this scale, and the only organization to offer training in genital massage in the Seattle area. Their courses are very well put together. Body Electric offers courses consisting of men only, and courses consisting of women only. They also (in Seattle, Washington, and Oakland, California) offer a course with both men and women, but you must complete the same sex-class before taking the mixed class. Call (510) 653-1594 to get a course catalog. In the Seattle area, you may call Dennis at (206) 329-9804 to inquire about or register for the men's course, or call Kate at (206) 233-1848 to inquire about or register for the women's course.
Learning more: books
The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, by Cathy Winks and Anne
Semans
This is the best available guide to general sexuality. It covers
anatomy and sexual response as well as sex toys and sex techniques.
A new edition of this book is coming out in April 1997. As you
may have noticed, this article has assumed a certain level of
anatomical knowledge on the part of the reader; if you feel the
need to catch up, this book is the perfect place to start.
ESO: How You and Your Lover Can Give Each Other Hours of Extended
Sexual Orgasm, by Alan P. Brauer and Donna Brauer
This book outlines a general approach for using genital massage
to achieve extended orgasmic states. The primary influences of
the article you are reading include this book and the author's
experience in the Body Electric school.
The Guide to Getting it On!, by Goofy Foot Press
This lighthearted book, aimed at heterosexual couples, contains
solid and easy-to-read chapters on male and female genital massage
that suggest a variety of different strokes and techniques.
SM 101: A Realistic Introduction (2nd ed.), by Jay
Wiseman
This book happens to contain an excellent chapter detailing many
genital massage strokes and techniques for men and women. The
remaining chapters are devoted to bondage and discipline (BD)
and SM techniques.
The Complete Book of Massage, by Claire Maxwell-Hudson
There are dozens of good how-to books on nonsexual ("therapeutic")
massage, and this is only one of them. A great way to augment
book learning is to receive quality massage. Seek out a trained,
licensed therapist in your area for nonsexual, relaxing "Swedish"
massage.
The Art of Sexual Ecstasy, by Margo Anand
Of the books on modern, Western "Tantra," this is probably
the best. To stay up-to-date on Tantric issues, you might also try reading Tantra Magazine
(ISSN 1064-0584).
Sex for One, by Betty Dodson
A guide to self-pleasuring for women and men.
The Bottoming Book, by Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt
If you want to raise additional energy by experiencing SM as part
of your massage, you'll probably find this book of value. It devotes
several chapters to spiritual issues related to SM play.
Consensual Sadomasochism, by William Henkin and Sybil
Holiday
This book teaches how to create an SM scene, and how to do various
forms of SM play safely.
Anal Pleasure and Health, by Jack Morin
This book discusses anal play, and the prostate gland, at length.
A Hand in the Bush: The Fine Art of Vaginal Fisting, by Deborah
Addington
Some women like the experience of having a whole hand in their
vagina. In late 1997, this book on that subject will be published
by Greenery Press.
Learning more: World Wide Web pages
In Seattle, if you don't have a computer or Internet access, you can access the Web for free (and anonymously) from the public libraries or from an Internet cafe (Speakeasy, Online Cafe, Virtual Commons or Book and Bean).
Learning more: videos
A classic yet lighthearted guide to spiritual sexuality for women is Annie Sprinkle's film Sluts and Goddesses. A video illustrating the Body Electric approach to sex, along with demonstrations of over 25 male genital massage strokes, is called Fire on the Mountain: An Intimate Guide to Male Genital Massage. If you need instruction in using safer sex supplies, rent Safe is Desire. A video called Art of Extended Orgasm has valuable demonstrations and advice for both male and female genital massage. To learn more about how women can use vibrators, watch Carol Queen's Great Vibrations. A video called Erotic Massage: The Touch of Love is helpful, featuring information on relaxing sensual and genital massage. In Seattle, these videos are available for rent from Toys in Babeland or Scarecrow Video (5030 Roosevelt Way NE). They are also available for mail-order purchase from Good Vibrations.
Learning more: audiotapes
There are several approaches to prolonging male pleasure other than those mentioned in this article. One method of avoiding ejaculation is the so-called "squeeze technique," which works but which has disadvantages. A more sophisticated approach, which allows true male multiple orgasms, is detailed in the audiotape course Male Multiple Orgasm Step-by-Step by Jack Johnston. This audiotape course may be purchased from Good Vibrations or Toys in Babeland.
Supplies
In Seattle, the best place to buy sex supplies, buy books and rent instructional/erotic videos is Toys in Babeland (707 E Pike). Toys in Babeland has Seattle's best selection of economy-sized water-based lubes (such as ID and ForPlay) and is a very comfortable place to shop for both women and men. If you don't live near Seattle and would like to buy supplies and books through mail order, I recommend Good Vibrations (1-800-BUY-VIBE).
Most large drug stores (such as Bartell's in Seattle) carry boxes of latex gloves in S, M and L sizes (be sure to buy gloves that fit you!). These stores will also carry a few types of water-based lubes and condoms. If you need condoms or Glyde oral barriers in Seattle, you should visit the Rubber Tree (4426 Burke N.); you can also buy from this store via mail order at (206) 633-4750. If you need X-large or X-small gloves, unpowdered gloves or Nitrile gloves (good if one of you has a latex allergy, or if you want your gloves to be oil-impervious), you can order them by mail from Conney (1-800-356-9100).
To buy massage supplies such as oils, lotions and tables in Seattle, I recommend All You Knead (1518 Broadway). If you live elsewhere and there isn't a massage supply store in your area, just pick up a copy of Massage Magazine (ISSN 1057-378X) and browse the ads or else request catalogs from Stronglite (1-800-289-5487) and Bodywork Emporium (1-800-822-5348). If your budget is tight, you could try making your own massage table, possibly with two sawhorses and a big padded board.
If you have a question about sex and need to ask it anonymously, San Francisco Sex Information (a free service) at (415) 989-7374 is the way to go. Questions about STDs can be directed to the National STD Hotline at (800) 227-8922, and questions about birth control can be directed to Planned Parenthood at (800) 230-7526.
Counseling
Some people find that sex and/or pleasure can bring up difficult emotional issues for them. If you find that you or you and your partner need counseling, be sure to see a counselor who is accepting of sex-positive lifestyles. In Seattle, I can recommend Kokoro Consulting at (206) 328-3944, Inspiration is the In-Breath of Spirit at (206) 669-5881 and Seattle Institute for Sex Therapy and Research at (206) 522-8588. Outside of Seattle, I'd recommend calling AASECT at (312) 644-0828 to get a referral to a qualified sex therapist in your area.
In closing...
One of the beautiful things about energy-raising sex is that it's a win-win situation; even if you don't use the energy for any particular goal, the sex still feels good. I honestly and sincerely hope this material enriches your life!
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